Is it possible to reliably send JMS message to the destination? By reliably I mean ensuring that if e.g. MessageProducer.send() call fails for some reason, it will be retried automatically. I realize that transaction session may use .recover() as last resort, but what about retrying? E.g. I have intermittent network failure in between session was established and attempted to send a message. How would recover() help in this case?
As far as I know, JMS do not support such behavior. You could search among specific vendor-extensions but, IMHO, it is unlikely that you find something suitable to your needs.
I see only two solutions to your problem:
Implement it. You can manage the JMS session manually, catch any exception and, if needed, use "set rollback only" function of transaction manager to invalidate the transaction.
Use a local queue to store messages and use a background service to move them to target remote queue. Note that many queue manager support this, e.g. Store and forward Queues of ActiveMQ. Obviously this way, your transaction boundary will not include remote queue.
I know that 2nd solutions is not a full answer to your problem but, many times, it is sufficient.