I am assuming that after finding peers using that Infohash you send handshake messages until one peer establishes a connection. But I can't seem to find any packet in Wireshark that has the metadata in it. If possible can you show me how a metadata query looks like?
The only thing I've found about metadata was bep 9 but it was kinda hard for me to understand and I didn't find anything in Wireshark similar
You already found the relevant BEP 9. To implement it you first have to implement BEP 10 and then check the extension header whether the peer supports BEP 9 and if it does send a series of extension messages with the appropriate negotiated IDs carrying a metadata request message.
You should be seeing the extension handshake message in most bittorrent connections since many clients support it. You're less likely to see metadata request/data messages (unless you explicitly trigger them in a client) because it's simply a less common operation than downloading the torrent payload.