For some reason the pull request isn't showing. I had some conflicts that I resolved. It insisted that I pushed/committed the code but I didn't. Is that something I need to do first? Is that why pull isn't showing here as it usually does?
You're still in the middle of a merge. Either resolve and commit the merge or abort it.
I find it helpful to look at the logs to figure out what state your copy of the repo is in. You can tell you're in an abnormal state if the "Working tree changes" doesn't show any changed files, or has conflicts. You could even initiate the pull by right clicking on the same item.