There two buttons in sale order form in with same name
<button name="action_confirm" id="action_confirm"
string="Confirm" class="btn-primary" type="object"
attrs="{'invisible': [('state', 'not in', ['sent'])]}"/>
**<button name="action_confirm"
string="Confirm" type="object"
attrs="{'invisible': [('state', 'not in', ['draft'])]}"/>**
Need to select second button using xpath and change its attributes
Here try this:
<!-- make priority bigger to make sure that this XPATH is used after the one
that adds the button -->
<field eval="100" name="priority"/>
<field name="arch" type="xml">
<xpath expr='//buttion[@name="action_confirm"][2]' position='replace'/>
</field>