net application on visual studio and i need to make connection with sharepoint costum list to update/insert/delete. Is there any tutorial or anyone can give some help?
There are multiple things you need to consider.
Code to write
Download and reference SharePoint Client dll's (e.g. SP 2013 -> 15 here)
Check out these samples -> https://msdn.microsoft.com/en-us/library/office/ee539976(v=office.14).aspx
Authentication
For a test drive i recommend the first authentication option, as the AddIn option requires a lot of configurations steps...