Is there any benchmark to know the server performance. And which listener is more useful for find the server performance.
You can check server performance by different factors like..
Response time, throughput etc requirements could vary from application to application. It really depends on application, business nature. These are normally derived by business analysts/clients.
Listeners just present you the info in different ways and all of them are important in their own way. I mostly use aggregate graph listener and loadosophia listener (plugin) to get reports. There are many other listeners available in Jmeter-Plugins and all of them are good in their own way.
For more details check: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Software_performance_testing http://www.testerlogic.com/performance-testing-types-concepts-issues/