I need to change the values of a PK/FK (add 10000) on 2 tables. How do I tell the two tables involved that they should not care about referential integrity during the update, but to care after. I don't want to have to drop and recreate the relationships if I don’t have to.
Your FK should have a "ON UPDATE CASCADE" option.
ALTER TABLE child CHANGE myfkconst FOREIGN KEY id REFERENCES parent (id) ON UPDATE CASCADE;
(or something like that. not 100% sure about the syntax)
And then you can just do
UPDATE parent SET id = id + 10000 WHERE id = something
and the child table will be updated automatically.