How do I set distance between flexbox items?

Question

To set the minimal distance between flexbox items I'm using margin: 0 5px on .item and margin: 0 -5px on container. This seems like a hack. Is there another property or method intended to accomplish this goal?

#box {
  display: flex;
  width: 100px;
  margin: 0 -5px;
}

.item {
  background: gray;
  width: 50px;
  height: 50px;
  margin: 0 5px;
}

<div id='box'>
  <div class='item'></div>
  <div class='item'></div>
  <div class='item'></div>
  <div class='item'></div>
</div>

Answer 1

Before ~2020², Flexbox didn't have anything akin to border-spacing for tables. The answer below is from that time. Now, the gap property fulfills this role and is recommended for this application.

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Flexbox doesn't have collapsing margins¹. Therefore, achieving what you are asking for is a bit more difficult.

In my experience, the "cleanest" way that doesn't use :first-child/:last-child and works without any modification on flex-wrap:wrap is to set padding:5px on the container and margin:5px on the children. That will produce a 10px gap between each child and between each child and their parent.

JSFiddle Demo

.upper {
  margin: 30px;
  display: flex;
  flex-direction: row;
  width: 300px;
  height: 80px;
  border: 1px red solid;

  padding: 5px; /* this */
}

.upper > div {
  flex: 1 1 auto;
  border: 1px red solid;
  text-align: center;

  margin: 5px;  /* and that, will result in a 10px gap */
}

.upper.mc /* multicol test */ {
  flex-direction: column;
  flex-wrap: wrap;
  width: 200px;
  height: 200px;
}

<div class="upper">
  <div>aaa<br/>aaa</div>
  <div>aaa</div>
  <div>aaa<br/>aaa</div>
  <div>aaa<br/>aaa<br/>aaa</div>
  <div>aaa</div>
  <div>aaa</div>
</div>

<div class="upper mc">
  <div>aaa<br/>aaa</div>
  <div>aaa</div>
  <div>aaa<br/>aaa</div>
  <div>aaa<br/>aaa<br/>aaa</div>
  <div>aaa</div>
  <div>aaa</div>
</div>