how to shut down a thread from a different one?

Question

In my application each request has its own thread. I use JMX/JConsole to monitor them, measure the elapsed time. If a a request needs too much time I'd like to stop it by interrupting the underlying thread. In a method that I call from JConsole I iterate over the list of threads and call interrupt() on the right instance.
However simply calling the interrupt() method on the thread instance only sets a flag, so I need to throw an InterruptedException, too. But this InterruptedException will apply to currentThread instead of the thread I actually want to stop. Any hint how to shut down the flagged thread?

    while (iterator.hasNext()) {
                    RequestHolder rh = iterator.next();
                    if (rh.getThread().getId() == threadId) {
                        rh.getThread().interrupt();
                        if(rh.getThread().isInterrupted()){

                            throw new InterruptedException();
                        }
                    }
                }

Answer 1

But this InterruptedException will apply to currentThread instead of the thread I actually want to stop.

You can check the interruption status of any thread using isInterrupted. However, it is not recommended as a black-boxed approach if you don't know how and when the interruption gets consumed.

Any hint how to shut down the flagged thread?

You cannot cleanly shutdown a thread from another thread.

But it is very simple. In the threads that are running, check for Interruption regularly, such as in loop catch InterruptedException for blocking functions. When you see the interruption in the thread, make it terminate itself. In a sense, the Threads implement their own termination policy.