i try this command line
xcopy e:\myfolder /EXCLUDE:excludeList.txt \\192.168.158.15\public\comp\myfolder /E/I/D/R/H/Y
the command copy all files every time even unchanged files i use /d that suppose to copy just newer files.
a small test shows it does work. you must have other problem ...
in netwoek
enviroment - you should add /z